Going to a movie for ME time today

Movie Day: The Greatest Showman

Hey everyone.  Today was amazing.  I had more me time than I really deserve.  My husband had to work a weird schedule today so he was home for a little while this morning.  Because it was just us after taking the kids to school we went to breakfast.  So good.  And then a couple hours later my sister in law called and asked what I had done for me.  I stumbled a bit and said I hadn’t done anything cause after my hubby went to work, I really hadn’t done anything for me.  So her response was “Wanna go to a movie with me, my treat?”  Ya, so cool isn’t she.  Actually I would say blessing is more like it.  Of course I said yes. And I rushed out of the house to meet her.

She was going to see The Greatest Showman about the Barnum Circus starring Hugh Jackman.  I didn’t figure it would be one my husband would want to see but it had peaked my interest when I saw a trailer for it a few months ago.  So I happily went with her.

The Best Movie I’ve Seen Recently

I’m not trying to sit and write a movie review and had only intended to mention whether or not I liked the movie, but I have to share a little bit.  The Great Showman was one of my favorite movies I have seen recently.  

I grew up listening to soundtracks from musicals.  Les Miserable and Phantom of the Opera were my favorites.  My dad would put his cassette tape in the truck stereo and we I would be singing Master of the House as we drove down the road.  At home I remember putting on the Les Miz soundtrack while I cleaned my room and belted out the songs as I picked up.

So Musicals were normal and a way of life for me.  I enjoy the Disney shows that have music more than the plain dramatic ones.  Music speaks to the soul, at least mine.  Because of this, I was excited to see The Great Showman as I love a good musical.  And it delivered and even blew me out of the water.  

I realize there may have been theatrical changes made to the story of P. T. Barnum, but the movie struck a lot of nerves in a good way.  It showed a man with a dream who never gave up on it.  Yes there were hardships, but he followed his passion despite what the world thought.  At the same time it almost destroyed him too. Without revealing too much of the movie for those that want to go see it, there was a lot I drew from it.  It left me feeling inspired but realizing that my dreams and desires need to stay in check.  

“Comfort, the enemy of progress”

This quote from the movie stood out to me.  I know you aren’t supposed to text during a movie but I had to share it with my hubby so I would remember it later.  To me, this was profound.  I mean, think about it.  When we get comfortable where we are we quit trying to go further which means we don’t progress in life.  I don’t know about you but that thought makes me desire progress over comfort.  I would rather be able to achieve my goals and dreams in life rather than stay where I’m at forever because it’s easy and relatively painless.

The End

As the movie came to an end I found myself wanting to watch it again!  In my mind I was screaming to just hit the menu button and play.  The music was phenomenal and the story inspiring.  It drives home going after your dreams and some of the pitfalls that can happen.  In this post I dare you to dream and this movie was like a confirmation to me saying we can achieve great things if we dare to take risks and go after our dreams.  So, while I wait til I can watch this movie again, I will continue dreaming and going after them.  I did something today that filled my cup.  I encourage you to take the challenge and do something for you today.  Be sure and share what you did!

Blessings

~Melissa

10 Real Life Struggles of Clean Eating

10 Real Life Struggles of Clean Eating

I have to admit that today I didn’t do well finding time for myself.  It happens.  I was busy taking one of our puppies to the vet for an unexpected visit.  She cut her leg yesterday so we had it checked out.  Thankfully a little surgical glue, a bandage, and an e-collar later and she is going to be just fine.  Between that and getting ready for a Girl Scout meeting I didn’t have much time to do anything for me.  But, I plan to make time tomorrow.  Since I didn’t make time for me today and many people are looking for healthy eating options this time of year, I thought I might switch gears and talk a little bit about my clean eating endeavors I mentioned in this post about the Daniel Plan.  I love the concept and ideas of clean eating but it doesn’t come without struggles, at least for me.

What is Clean Eating?

For those of you that might be reading this and have never heard of clean eating or only vaguely understand what it is, let me enlighten you on it.  It is a lifestyle of eating only whole, unprocessed foods.  You want to eat only foods that have 4 or 5 ingredients or less on the nutrition label and it better be items that you know what they are.  No 1,2 dimethyl-2,3-whoknowswhattheheckitis, only foods you understand like sweet cream and salt.  No guessing there.  And that is all that is in salted butter if you have ever looked at the ingredient list.  White flour and white sugar shouldn’t be eaten either.  So things like honey become the sweetners you use.  100% wheat flours and whole grains are a staple, instead of the yummy white breads most people consume.  In a nutshell, clean eating is just cutting out the processing and going back to more home cooked, natural foods.

The struggles of Clean Eating

I love the idea of eating clean.  I really do.  Looking at a food label and knowing what is in it gives me some satisfaction.  Knowing my family is being fed well as opposed to wondering what the effects of the so-called foods may be.  As a mom and wife that was fulfilling.  But, (there’s always a but, right?) it was difficult to follow when life got busy.  When we first started the plan I made several things homemade.  I found 9 grain english muffins, multi grain bread, soups, meals, and many other things that fell into the “clean” eating category.  Amazingly they were all things my family enjoyed too so it felt less like a diet and more like a sustainable plan. Despite the things that I loved about clean eating (and still do love), there were some challenges that came along with it.

1. Convenience

This one may be rather obvious, but clean eating is not near as convenient as putting together a quick meal from a box or throwing a frozen pizza in the oven.  If you are looking for the quick, easy way to get meals on the table, this style (at least from my experience) will be difficult to sustain.

2. Longer cook times

When cooking homemade meals, it generally takes a lot more time to prepare whole, unprocessed ones.  It can be difficult to find breads that are clean on the grocery store shelf so what’s a person to do.  Well make homemade of course.  But, let me ask, have you made bread lately?  It generally takes a few hours at the very least.  Now it can be fun and rewarding but don’t plan to come home after a busy day to start baking bread unless you want to be up half the night.  And this is just one example.

3. More dishes

With homemade meals comes the inevitable pile of dishes.  Who has time for that unless you are lucky enough to have a maid to do them?  If you don’t believe me let’s just think about a minimally processed, clean eating spaghetti.  Normal spaghetti these days would probably consist of a box of enriched white flour pasta, a couple jars of sauce, and maybe some browned hamburger.  So generally you have the pan for the meat and sauce and a pot to boil the noodles. In essence, 2 big pans and a couple utensils.  Now take my favorite spaghetti sauce I made when we were clean eating found here from Bless this Mess.  I loved this sauce but you grated carrots, cut a couple other vegetables, browned hamburger (I used hamburger instead of steak) and simmered it covered.  So you went from just a couple pans to a grater, pans, cutting board and knives.  This may not seem like much but it adds up when time is of the essence.

4. Flavors

You might think, “All home cooked natural foods!  That would taste amazing!”  Well sometimes it did and sometimes it didn’t.  We were used to the typical American diet of salty, sugary foods.  When you go from that to dishes that get their flavors from other sources (which is a good thing I might add)  it takes an adjustment.  Things taste different and sometimes that is difficult to get used to.  At least it was for us.

5. Planning time

You guessed it.  It takes a lot more time to plan to clean eat.  You have to be intentional about everything you cook and eat, even snacks.  It’s easy to just grab whatever sounds good or is handy, but it’s not so easy if you are being mindful of everything it’s made of.  At least not at first.

6. Finding ingredients that were “clean”

Sometimes you would read about ingredients that were clean or at least cleaner than their fully refined counterparts, but they are nowhere to be found.  I read about some people who found sugar in almost its raw form and used it.  Could I find it at our local Walmart? Nope.  Do I have time as a busy mom to drive all over town just looking for a bag of sugar? Nope.  So it made it difficult at times to find things to use without having to just cut a food completely out of my diet.  

7. Modifying favorite recipes

This is a big one!  At least for me.  Most everyone has their favorite recipes.  Those like mom used to make.  But mom’s weren’t always healthy or “clean” either.  And finding alternatives could prove difficult.  An example of this is my homemade sloppy joes.  I always loved my mom’s savory version of sloppy joes (she had a sweet version too called bbq’s).  However, her sloppy joes called for canned soup.  Yes, a can of Campbell’s Chicken Gumbo Soup.  I have not found an alternative to this.  I mean, how do you replace the flavor of a can of condensed soup even though it may not be the healthiest thing for you.  So it can be hard to modify the recipes which means you give them up or don’t eat clean.

8. Kid approved

This can be the hardest one.  As a mom, we take an unspoken oath to care for our kids.  But, let’s face it, they can be our worst critic.  Now that’s not saying kids are horrible and hard to deal with.  Truthfully though,  they will tell it like it is.  And who wants to starve their kid in the name of eating healthy.  For me, I find great satisfaction in knowing my family likes the foods I prepare so hearing them say they just don’t like something makes me feel like a failure in some ways.  And switching kids taste buds can be more difficult than raising the Titanic.

9. Variety

This could all be in my mind but I sometimes find it difficult to clean eat and not feel like I’m constantly eating the same things. Variety is huge for me and my family.  Sometimes it seems you are in the same cycle day after day, week after week eating the same things.

10. Expense

Money.  The world revolves around money.  And those of us on a budget can find it difficult to eat whole, unprocessed foods without breaking the bank.  Ya you can find some things reasonably priced and some canned goods may even be better than their fresh counterparts, but on the whole, fresh foods cost more.  Take Salmon for example.  A can of Salmon can cost around $3.  Fresh salmon is $7-12 per lb.  Or how about fruit?  You can spend $3-5 for  6-8 apples but a bag of chips is $2.50.  Natural lunch meats can run $4-5 while their nitrite laiden counterparts can run as little as $1 on sale.  You get the idea.

In Conclusion

So now you have the reasons why we struggled to maintain our “clean eating” journey.  Time is the main factor when you look through that.  It takes time.  That’s not a bad thing but when life got crazy busy we just couldn’t sustain it.  Do I like the idea of clean eating? YES!  If i could get it all done and still have the convenience (to an extent) of processed foods I would in a heartbeat.  There were definitely things I loved about clean eating when we were doing it.  So you can decide for yourself.

Eating clean is just a part of being healthy.  You also need to take care of you by allowing yourself time whether it’s to read a book, play a game, or just sit in quiet.  So, I challenge you to find time for you today and share what you did or if you have tried clean eating and what you think of it. Pros and cons.

 

Blessings

~Melissa

The Daniel Plan - Healthy Living Lifestyle

The Daniel Plan – The Journey Begins

I loved reading books as a kid.  My summers would often include me laying in bed all day long just devouring a good book.  I loved a good suspense, mystery, adventure book.  But now as an adult with a family I rarely find the time to sit down and read.  Yes, I still enjoy reading but it has taken the back burner to many other activities.  But today I made time for me to read.  I made myself a priority for 15 minutes by beginning a new book, The Daniel Plan.  One I believe that is hopefully going to be the beginning of a new adventure for myself and my family.

The Daniel Plan Invitation

About a week ago a friend reached out on Facebook looking to form a small group to do the Daniel Plan with.  Pastor Rick Warren, Dr. Daniel Amen, and Dr. Mark Hyman wrote The Daniel Plan. The book says to not go it alone but to do it with a group of friends, to have accountability. So she took a leap of faith and asked others to join her group.

When I saw her invitation and desire to have other be a part of this I didn’t know what to think.  At first I was skeptical and a little apprehensive.  Frankly, I don’t like all the fad diets as I think they just set people up for failure.  Maybe for some this wouldn’t be the case but for me, it would.  I have wanted to be a part of something sustainable, more of a lifestyle change, for several years.  But I hadn’t found anything that fit the bill.

Clean Eating

A couple of years ago, in fact, my husband and I decided to try “clean eating”.  I had found this post from Bless this Mess about clean eating and it just resonated with me.  So we decided to try it out.  We switched out some of the foods we ate to more natural products like no more margarine, only butter kind of things.  I made homemade breads, sauces and more.  We liked it in the beginning and I thought we were onto something.  A new lifestyle I felt good about.

The End of It

We tried to eat clean for about 2 months and then we decided we were going to move.  We began the process of selling our house and buying a new one.  And for any of you that have gone through that process it’s not an easy one.  We began some fix up projects on our home, cleared out clutter, and started looking for a new house.  A month later we had officially listed our house and made an offer on another place.  Within  a week of listing our house we had an offer which we accepted and then got word our offer was accepted on a house we wanted to buy.  So from start to finish we decided to sell our house and closed on both our old house and new house 2 months later.  It was a whirlwind ride!

However, despite the excitement of moving and the new house, we weren’t able to maintain our new lifestyle.  Back came the convenient processed foods and fast foods.  I mean, really, who has time to cook loads of from scratch foods when you are trying to get a house ready to sell.  I sure didn’t.  So ended our clean eating adventure.

The Here and Now

Ever since we tried to do clean eating I have wanted to get back to something similar.  To be honest, my husband and I neither one are at healthy weights.  We would both benefit from a lifestyle change if we want to be here for the long haul.  I had never seen anything that interested me or that I would make a priority to read or follow through with.  Many things seemed gimmicky or even more unhealthy.  The eat low-fat/fat-free just didn’t seem sensible to me anymore either.  Until now.

I had never heard of the Daniel Plan so I downloaded a free trial of it on my Amazon Kindle and read a little.  From what I could tell in that moment it appeared to be a lot like clean eating, pushing whole natural foods rather than supplements or low-fat chemical laden ones.  Needless to say my curiosity was peaked.  I was interested.

The Journey Begins

Since the plan itself interested me, the only hurdle left to get over before starting the Daniel Plan was my own introverted self.  Yes, by nature, I don’t easily go meet a bunch of people I don’t know really well.  Especially when sharing things like this journey.  What if I fail?  What if I start this but fall short?  What if all the others lose a lot of weight and get healthy and I don’t?  I know it may not matter what others think of us, but come on, who can fully, 100% say they would be okay starting a journey of this sort and failing in front of others, especially people they just met.  I can’t.  But I pushed through and went to the first meeting. We met each other and decided to read the 1st chapter over the next week.

So the journey begins.  Today, I am starting down a road which will hopefully change my life and my husbands and teach our kids a new way to live.  For my 15 minutes of “me time” for The Challenge I began reading The Daniel Plan.  I am not quite through the first chapter as I stopped so I could help my husband finish the dishes (duty calls, right?).  I believe this book/plan will be challenging yet good. Pastor Warren begins by pointing out, within the first few pages, how our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit and do not belong to us.  They were bought at a high price.  So not taking care of them is a sin and going against they very way we were created.  Tough words I know.  And that is just the beginning….

Your Invitation

I am taking time for me today to begin a journey to lasting health.  I know several more days of me time will be spent continuing reading this book and implementing many of its concepts and lifestyle changes.  So if you are interested in doing the Daniel Plan too feel free to join me.  Join us.  This adventure isn’t meant for one.  If not I hope you at least find time for YOU today.  Please share with me if you are starting the Daniel Plan or what you are doing for YOU today!  And if you want to buy the Daniel Plan book to begin reading it to see if you want to change your lifestyle feel free to check it out with the link below (affiliate link) or in stores.

Daniel Plan Amazon Link

Blessings

~Melissa

Dare to Dream: What are you waiting for?

Dare to Dream: What Are You Waiting For?

As I continue down the beginning of this journey of taking time for myself everyday, I found myself thinking about what I would do for me today.  I realized I had already done it.  I worked!  That’s right.  I worked and that was my “me” time.  You see, for several years I have dreamed of owning a successful business and blogging.  I love to write my thoughts down and blogging has seemed the best way for me to do that.  So for me to “work” on my blog, developing the site better and writing posts was me working on my dream.

As a mom I often find myself sacrificing my dreams for those of my children.  Would I want it any different?  No, not really.  But I find it refreshing to be working and going after something for me this time. In Jeremiah 29:11 God tells us, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

My Future

Up until now I have somewhat questioned my future.  I really do enjoy being a stay at home mom despite the difficulties it sometimes presents.  I really love being my own boss and setting my schedule according to my family and not the constraints of the corporate world.  But I had the moments I felt as though something in me was missing.  Something wasn’t complete.  I know I won’t be completed until the day I’m standing in Heaven, but I felt I had more to offer the here and now.  This blog, is that little piece.  My children and my husband are my future, my destiny and this is my way to share that with others.  I can contribute to my family by writing words on a page.

The Legacy my blog will bring

This blog will hopefully bring a legacy for my kids.  Showing them to not be afraid to go after the desires of their heart.  Do you encourage your kids to dream?  Do you want them to succeed and have everything they truly want?  God says “Delight yourself in the Lord, And He will give you the desires and petitions of your heart” Psalm 37:4.  My heart’s desire is to have a successful blog.  And, if I’m going to be honest, to make money to help my family through my blog.  The biggest desire of my heart is to see my kids fulfill their dreams.  I don’t want anything to hold them back.  So my hope and prayer for them is they can see me chasing my dreams through words on a screen and they will know their dreams are possible.  That they can be anything they put their mind and effort into whether that is soccer star or a mechanic or anything else they dream up.  My blog is a bigger legacy than I imagined when it was placed on my heart and I think than I can even see right now.

Dream the dream

I encourage you today, whether you are a single mom working several jobs, a stay at home mom wanting to be a little more connected, a corporate dad who needs a change, part of a two income household doing the best you can, to go after your dreams.  Go after your heart’s desire.  I dare you to dream.  I dare you to give your heart’s desires to God and see what He does.  You might be surprised.  I was.  I never thought I would be sitting at home developing web pages and writing this way.  But more and more it was becoming clear that I had a dream.  Now here it is.  And you are reading it.  You are part of my dream.  Dreams can come true.  So I say it again,  I dare you to dream.  I dare you to take your 15 minutes of me time to think about your dreams and desires.  It’s okay.  Really.  You’re not selfish.  You are worth more and worth it. After you dream share with me what your dreams are if you are comfortable doing so.  Share what you did for YOU today.

 

Blessings

 

~Melissa

 

P.S. If you like the idea of doing something for You today be sure to check out my post The Challenge.

King of Tokyo

King of Tokyo Board Game

How many of you like to play games?  I know I do.  For my “Me Time” today I spent time with my family.  We played a game called King of Tokyo.  I realize that may not sound like doing something just for me like I suggest in my post “The Challenge” but I assure you it was.  You see, by nature I am a very competitive person.  I like a good challenge.  Although sometimes I can get a bit too competitive.

Playing a good board game is as much for me as for my kids (who also like a good game).  It’s always been something I have enjoyed from the time I was little.  I remember having a weekly game night with my brother and my parents.  We played things like Pictionary and Scattergories.  I still love those games and miss those times with my brother and parents.  But now, I have the opportunity to pass those on to my kids.

On the other hand, my husband wasn’t raised playing games.  They just didn’t do it.  So it took him a bit to warm up to the idea of doing it on a regular basis.  But now, he loves a good game as much as the rest of us.  There are games that are his favorites and he would play any day over some others.  Yahtzee is his favorite: That little dice game where you get 3 rolls and score points accordingly.

Fast forward to about 6 months ago. My dad was visiting us from out of town.  My brother, who is an even bigger gamer than me, had a couple new board games.  So he brought them over and we tried them.  One was a game called Splendor which I will share about in a future post.  The other, a game called King of Tokyo.

King of Tokyo Amazon Link

King of Tokyo is what we played this time.  Imagine a game that is Yahtzee meets King of the Hill.  It may sound weird but is actually fun and I have found even our 6 year old can understand enough to play without much help other than reading the cards to him.  You can try and strategize in this game but there is also a huge element of chance.

King of Tokyo Game Play

I want to share a little bit about how King of Tokyo works so you aren’t sitting, scratching your head going “Huh? What is this game she is talking about.”  To play the game each player picks a monster.  You have a card that counts points and hearts for your monster.  Once you determine who starts the game you go around and roll the 6 black dice.

King of Tokyo Dice Roll
Dice roll during the game King of Tokyo

They contain numbers, claws, hearts, and lightning bolts.  The numbers can gain you points if you roll the right combination.  The claws will attack one or more of the other monsters (your opponents) causing them to lose hearts. And if you lose too many hearts, your out of the game.  The hearts do just what you would think.  They gain you hearts back if you have been attacked.  Finally, the lightning bolts earn you little green squares that you can use to buy power up cards.

Play continues around the table with monsters entering and exiting tokyo, attacking others, and trying to gain points without dying.  The last man standing or 1st one to 20 points is deemed the winner.

Our Families Game

My 6 year old began the game.  He hit all three of us with some hearts removed and began gaining power ups.  He loves to get the lightning bolts!  My husband went next followed by me.  On my first roll I was set up to receive several points so I took them.  You see, as I mentioned above you can win by being the 1st to 20 points.  So my strategy began.  Next was my 10 year old and play continued.  I finally was able to knock my husband out with a power up card causing him to lose all his hearts (sorry dear).  Next I caused my 10 year old to enter Tokyo with only a few hearts.  Needless to say she didn’t survive her brother’s next attack (I told you I was competitive, Lol!).  Okay so maybe I’m not the most loving, sacrificing mom when I’m in game mode.  It came down to my 6 year old and me.  Several turns back and forth and I finally beat him (yes, it took a bit and he almost had me)  but I was able to get to 20 points.

My Final Thoughts

This game filled my cup as I was able to have fun with my family.  Of course, I won’t deny that winning helps.  But I love taking that time to be with them.  To hear my son say, “I’m gonna get you mom!”  There is something sweet in those moments.  Something that when he is grown and has a family of his own I can always take with me.  Spending quality time with the people that matter most was the me time I wanted today. It was a little longer than 15 minutes but that’s okay.  So get out a good board game or give King of Tokyo a try and spend some time with your family.  If you do let me know what you played.  Or if you do something different be sure and let me know what you did for YOU today!

Blessings

~Melissa

 

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Top 5 favorite soups found online!

My Top 5 Soup Recipes Found Online

So for my 1st day of doing something for myself I am going to begin the ever daunting task of organizing my recipes.  I must say I absolutely love Pinterest and the endless number of ideas, crafts, and most of all recipes that can be found there.  My husband and I use it all the time to find recipes to try when we are getting tired of the same old things.  

 

That being said, sometimes it gets cumbersome trying to sift through all the posts on a board trying to find that one dish you want to have again.  Then there is the unfortunate times when you find something you absolutely love and go back to find it at a future date and for some unknown reason it’s gone.  Nowhere to be found.  Yes… this happened to me recently.  We had found a soup we absolutely loved and now I cannot find it again.  The link just disappeared.  Finally, what about making notes that you can refer to quickly and easily about changes to a recipe?  If I had them saved to another location or printed and put in a book of my “Internet Faves” it would be easy to make notes and tweak as needed for my families preferences.  Otherwise, I find myself trying, months later, to remember what the heck it was I needed to do different on a particular dish.  

 

So, I realize maybe my first choice isn’t a “fun” thing to do persay.  But for me it’s something I have wanted to do for months and never made a priority because it was just for my benefit.  So starting today  I’m going to begin saving the recipes I’ve found online that we really like and I’m beginning with Soups.

 

I printed the recipes out and put them in sheet protectors in a 3-ring binder like this one you can get from Amazon.

 

 

I now have hard copies of our favorites and can make notes and adjustments as I desire. 

If you want to know more about what I’m referring to in doing something for myself be sure and check out this post. 

The Challenge

 

I thought I would share the links for the recipes I have saved. So here is my list of our 5 favorite soups found on the internet that are in my new Internet Recipe Book. 

slow cooker creamy tortellini soup

https://cafedelites.com/slow-cooker-creamy-tortellini-soup/

I recently tried this and found it is absolutely delicious!  The italian sausage gave it tons of flavor and just the combinations in this soup were excellent.

 

Slow Cooker Beef and Barley Soup

http://tiphero.com/slow-cooker-beef-barley-soup/utm_content=buffer7782b&utm_medium=social&utm_source=pinterest.com&utm_campaign=buffer

I’ve made this a couple times and we really enjoy the flavor.  Plus being a crock pot meal makes it that much better when you need a yummy homemade meal on a busy night, cause who isn’t busy, right?

 

CROCKPOT STUFFED PEPPER SOUP

http://momswithcrockpots.com/crockpot-stuffed-pepper-soup/

This recipe from Moms with Crockpots is simply delicious.  I really enjoy stuffed peppers but my husband isn’t a big fan of the pepper “shell”.  This, however, gives all that wonderful stuffed pepper flavor without the overpowering pepper shell.

Italian-Style Chicken and Mushroom Soup

https://www.blessthismessplease.com/italian-style-chicken-and-mushroom-soup/

My husband loves this soup!  This is one he asks for once a year for something different.  It takes a little bit of work but is well worth it in the end.

 

Taco Soup

http://www.kraftrecipes.com/recipes/taco-soup-111547.aspx

This is one of my faves.  It is wonderful on a cold day or for a simple Christmas lunch.

 

I hope you have a chance to give these a try as they all have wonderful flavor.  If you do let me know what you think.  And don’t forget to share what you did for YOU today!

The Challenge

Being a Stay at Home Mom definitely has its perks.  I can come and go as I please.  Schedule things to do with friends during the day.  Play chauffer to my kids for various after school activities. Volunteer for things within our community. The list goes on.  But the one downfall I have found to being at home is a struggle for identity.  

 

This may sound petty but as a stay at home mom I am a jack of all trades, master of none, in a manner of speaking.  For those with careers, there is an identity with your job.  If you think about it you have a title such as “Accountant”, “Business Manager”, “Math Teacher”, and the list goes on. When I worked full time before leaving my job to stay home I was an Environmental Scientist.  I had a title, a specialty.  Something others could turn to me and look for my expertise when they had issues in the areas I worked in daily.  But as a stay at home mom I find myself lacking in ways to share myself and by sharing myself feeling valuable in the world,  contributing to my family by doing more than driving them from point A to point B.  Do I love my role, my “job”.  Most of the time. It has its moments when I would rather be doing something else.

 

Being a stay at home mom is a thankless job.  How many times do people with careers aspire and work toward a promotion or “atta boy” from their boss?  I would bet most people long for that form of appreciation and job status.  However, what do those of us in the trenches receive?  The occasional thanks, but more often, the “mom, I don’t have clean socks”, “when is supper”, “why do I have to help with that”.  And then there is the mantra that follows when your husband returns home.  “What did you do all day?”  So, it comes with never ending tasks, little thanks, and no paycheck.  Yep.  Not a dime.

 

As I have been on the home front for the past 8 years, I more and more am realizing that I need to do more for me.  Because of constantly pouring myself into my husband and kids I’m realizing that I need to pour a little into me too.  So beginning today, I am challenging myself to be selfish.  You read correctly.  I’m gonna get selfish for 2018. I’m not talking the kind of selfish where the world revolves around me night and day.  Or I spend money like there is no tomorrow and bankrupt my family.  I’m talking the kind of selfish that is doing something just for me each and every day.  My goal is to do at least 15 minutes of something not for my kids, my husband, or anyone else, but just because I want to do it.  It can be as simple as reading the bible for 15 minutes, working out, going for a walk, baking something just because, or scrapbooking.  It could also be something more time consuming like visiting with a friend for half the day or getting a pedicure.

 

If your cup is empty you cannot pour out any more into your family’s cups.  So beginning now, I want to make sure I fill my cup every day so I can continue filling the cups of others.  So I challenge you to go on this adventure with me whether you are a stay at home mom, a mom working 3 jobs, or somewhere in between.  We all need to fill our cups in order to pour into our families.  Do something for yourself today and leave me a comment describing what you did to inspire others to get “selfish”!